How To Approach Women

The best tip when it comes to approaching women is to do just that, approach a woman. I know for some men it’s not that easy and sometimes if feels like there’s no secret or magical formula, but there are many tips to help you get going.

Social Events
One technique that you can learn in How To Get A Date is getting involved in social groups or events that are repetitive in nature. Groups where people meet because they’re interested in the same topic or something that is close to the same topic you’re interested in always gives you a leg up on approaching women.

But before you get to those social gatherings, consider working on some personal attributes to help increase your chances of success when you approach women.

Let’s Get Personal
Personal attributes like confidence goes a long way with women. How do you work on increasing your confidence? Well you can start by asking what’s the worst thing that can happen when you approach a woman to talk to? Rejection. How do you handle rejection?

Well, if you’ve spent the majority of your life in relationships with people – family, friends, etc., you might have already experienced rejection. Know that rejection is something we cannot live without. It’s built in, it’s part of society and the way people interact on many levels, whether it’s personal or business. That doesn’t make it any easier to handle, but it should allow you to relax a bit when it comes to you approaching women.

Embrace rejection and know that it will always be lurking around the corner. No need to get too excited about it. Sometimes, it’s just part of life.

Okay back to confidence. Confidence looks like a well-groomed man who keeps his head up and smiles. Someone who looks into her eyes while talking to her and listening to her during a conversation. Someone who approaches a beautiful woman when he wants to and doesn’t stare at her, waiting for the “right time”.

Confidence is someone who doesn’t ramble on about one topic or about themselves. Don’t make her feel like you have one thing on your mind – getting her number right now and asking her out on a date. Be interested in her and what she says. Respond to what she says, don’t make her wonder if what she said bothered you or you didn’t believe in what she says. Respond to what she has to say.

Confidence is also about being spontaneous and in control. Women love men who are spontaneous and not predictable. Spontaneous is breaking up the routine, it’s thinking of new ways to have fun. Think about when you’ve been in groups of people or other individuals and something happened out of the ordinary that was unpredictable. You’ll have to spend some time thinking of spontaneous actions, what they are and how you can use them to add spice to a relationship or a conversation or meeting someone new.

Are you in control of your life? Your financial life? Can you explain simply what you do in life to someone else, confidently? Women love men you are in control. If you don’t have your personal life together, other people can sense that too.

Confidence is also about overcoming fear. The fear of approaching a woman for some men can be overwhelming, in which case you’ll have to start with baby steps like being in the same space with other women. If you’re in a line getting a drink or some food, a casual, “Hi, how are you?” to the lady next to you, in front of you or behind you, can go a long way and is a start. Practice will help build your confidence.

Repeat Opportunities
Repeat opportunities are available at places where you see some of the same women on a regular basis.

Whatever your interests are, most likely there’s a group of people who also like the same thing(s). Find these groups in your area and join them. You’ll meet a lot of new people and you’ll be able to practice approaching women and starting conversations.

Approaching women in bars and clubs can be challenging because of the noise level. A lot of women spend their hard-earned money on lookin’ good at the bars and clubs so make sure you’re dressed to play the part as well. Don’t always frequent the same place over and over. If the opportunity presents itself, move your conversation with her to a quieter area of the bar.

Approaching women at the gym is a place you can practice. Don’t be obnoxious, don’t interrupt a woman’s schedule at the gym, don’t make a woman feel like she dreads going to the gym because you’re always their hounding her. You’ll be able to tell if there’s any interest by the way women respond. Some women wear headphones to make sure guys leave them alone. There are gyms that have women only rooms. It’s a tough place to approach women but it can be done.

Attending social events and places where you can approach women, with some real-world practice, you’ll increase your confidence in how to approach women.

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Tina September 7, 2010 at 10:28 am

Confidence is a great turn on. Being a confident male, but not overconfident is always good in my books.


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